Act Responsibly, Don't Take Responsibility
In a recent conversation, Erin Gibb shared lessons from her mentor about staying sustainable for the long haul as a healthcare provider, “I have learned to act responsibly but not to take responsibility.”
That comment hit home.
And in talking with my boss recently, he shared that when he’s tempted to call a lunchtime meeting, he thinks of me, “Oh, Nicola will react to this, maybe talking today’s not necessary!”, which made me laugh!
This conversation allowed me to see just how far I’ve come in my willingness to set boundaries, say “no”, and prioritize my well-being in a clinical context.
Setting consistent boundaries to protect my self-care and honor my emotional and physical needs at work has become second nature. I don’t set boundaries perfectly, but I am so much better at boundary setting than I was in my early career years, when I worked late, worked through lunches, and got sucked into the losing game of trying to force patient outcomes or manipulate how other people responded to me.
Boundaries come more easily when I am clear on my core values and willing to let go of my attachment to a particular outcome of a situation. And ultimately, letting go of the outcome allows me to act responsibly without taking responsibility for what’s not in my control.
I hope you take some time to reflect on the difference between acting responsibly and taking responsibility this week.
And, take a few minutes to listen to my conversation with Erin and share your thoughts about boundaries, responsibility, and sustainability with me. I would love to hear from you!
What’s new on Menders?
I am busily preparing for the next season of Menders and am excited to announce that I’ll be dropping a bonus solo season in early January! And Menders women in leadership season will drop soon after that! I’ve got a great lineup of women leaders in healthcare, so stay tuned!
How to keep yourself sustainable
Why values matter to community engagement
Why it’s worth your time to get your whole leadership team on board
Why clear messaging matters in healthcare
How to reorient from patient outcomes to employee engagement and still boost your metrics!
And so much more!
And check out the Menders archives for a great conversation about diversity, radical listening, and elevating underrepresented narratives with Anita Verna Crofts!
I’m excited to announce that I’m now offering a focused coaching series for Managers!
Are you a nurse manager, clinic manager, team leader, or unit supervisor? Are you struggling to manage organizational stressors such as burnout, misaligned policies, interpersonal conflict, or poor communication? Would you like support in realigning your team with a culture of well-being?
Check out Systemic Stress Management for Managers!
If you’re curious to learn more you can find all the details about my current offerings here. Or send me an email to let me know a bit about you and what challenges you’re motivated to solve. I would love to hear from you!